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11 Steps Toward Being Ordinary

Avatar for Gaye Levy Gaye Levy  |  Updated: June 28, 2019
11 Steps Toward Being Ordinary

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Blending in has a lot going for it, for as nice as it is to be known for your uniqueness, when it comes to prepping, less is more and being ordinary rocks.  Said another way, looking and acting the same as everyone else allows you to go unnoticed as you gather supplies and spend time honing your homesteading skills.

I like to call this “the pursuit of ordinary”.

11 Steps Toward Being Ordinary

OPSEC – Yes or No?

Maintaining OPSEC is an issue with many different “expert” opinions regarding how much OPSEC secrecy is really needed.  Do you keep your prepping activities close to the belt, telling no one?  If so, how do you become part of a preparedness community?  If the stuff hits the  fan we are going to need a supportive community but if you don’t talk to anyone now, how will you know whether you can trust them later?

As I said late last year in the article Is Prepper OPSEC Really Important?:

There is quite a bit of disagreement among preppers relative to the importance of OPSEC.  Do you keep your activities hush hush, even amongst family members?  Or do you blab to the world, hoping you can be joined by others who share similar philosophies and goal?  Or is it something in-between?

In layman’s terms Operations Security or OPSEC means keeping your activities secret so “enemies” can not figure out what you are up to.  Remember the old military term “loose lips, sink ships”?  Something like that.

Whether or not you publicize your prepping activities is a matter of personal preference and most certainly, we are all entitled to formulate a mindset that works best for our own situation.  For many, it is a tough call.  Seriously.  Who wants zombies (thugs and marauders) to come knocking on their door if the stuff hits the fan?

These are tough questions that each of us must consider.  Most assuredly, there is no right and no wrong, but something in between.  One thing, however, that we all believe, is the need to appear as common and as ordinary as possible without drawing undue attention to ourselves.

With that in mind, here is a list of things you can do now to ensure that you appear ordinary and even boring to the people you meet.

11 Steps to Take in the Pursuit of Ordinary

1.  Get to know your co-workers and neighbors in a “hi, how are you?” type of way.  Be friendly and social but at least in the beginning, nothing much more than that.  There is no reason to share the fact that you have a year’s worth of food and 4000 rounds of ammo stored in your basement with casual friends, acquaintances and neighbors.

2.  Being passionate about prepping makes you want to talk about it.  The solution to this is to share preparedness information and links to interesting online content in the same way you share baseball scores or the weather report.  Sharing Backdoor Survival and similar resources is encouraged within the context of “family preparedness” and “disaster readiness” but not in “the zombies will be out to get you” way.

3.  Do not use the term “SHTF” around people that you do not know and trust.  Sorry to say, this includes non-prepping family members.

4.  Remove all bumper stickers or other outward signs or labels that you belong to a political or quasi-controversial organization such as the NRA or even the ACLU.  Still belong if that is your choice; but keep it to yourself.

5.  Ensure that from the street, your home looks tidy but not overly extravagant.  A few weeds in the yard and less than new lawn furniture all speak to you being an average Joe or Jane.  Likewise, paint your house to blend in with the surrounding neighbors.  If you want you home to make an artistic statement, do so inside where no one can see it. Like I said, blend in and look ordinary.

6.  Practice the art of understatement in your clothing as well as the gadgets and gizmos you carry on a daily basis.  This includes your EDC which should be safely hidden out of sight in a pocket, purse, or daypack.  This also applies to your firearm if you carry one.  Get a concealed permit and keep your firearm out of sight.

7.  When possible, have package deliveries made to a PO box.  Worst case, have your survival and preparedness products shipped in plain boxes.  Both Emergency Essentials and Lucky Ammo will do this upon request as will many other online vendors.  Be aware, however, that in my experience, this is not 100% reliable but at least you can ask.

8.  Cook outdoors frequently using the various methods you would plan to use if the grid were down.  Get people used to the fact that you love outdoor cooking, whether it be a barbeque, fire pit or rocket stove.  Make cooking outdoors the new normal, weather permitting or not.

9.  When shopping for bulk goods at the grocery store, it is better to purchase a reasonable quantity with each trip than a huge quantity in a single trip.  On the other hand, visit warehouse stores like Costco or Sam’s and bulk up.  Everyone buys in huge quantities at Costco!

10.  Practice your response to the statement “if something happens, I am coming over to your house since I know you are well stocked”.  There are many possible responses, including my favorite which is “I have set aside enough for my family to get by for a short period without much extra. What can you contribute?  Perhaps we can combine forces.”

11.  Take up some ordinary, even boring hobbies.  Sure you may like to hang out at the firing range but why not balance that with time spent hiking, camping or reading.  These more benign activities can still focus on honing your preparedness skills but they are so very mainstream that no one will suspect your true motive.

The Final Word

When I was younger, my mantra was to strive to be extraordinary.  These days, in my heart of hearts, I still wish to be special but in a very different way than when I was in my twenties.  Now, being extraordinary has more to do with confidence and self-esteem than with in your face achievements or notoriety.

Having goals is important and most certainly, being a prepper of the highest order is a great goal for all us.  That being said, why not do so in an ordinary fashion while living an outwardly ordinary life in an extraordinary manner?

Enjoy your next adventure through common sense and thoughtful preparation!

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22 Responses to “11 Steps Toward Being Ordinary”

  1. my looks are very deceiving, by all appearances i am normal. you dont see my body piercings and tattoos hidden by my clothing. i very rarely wear earrings in my 6 holes in my ears. When i wear my long hair up, that is when you can see my neck is shaved. i have no friends, and no visitors to my home, its just hubby and I (we like it like that). i speak tot he neighbors in passing, so i dont mention any of my efforts to prep. all the neighbors know who are military vets, most of the neighbors are. i didn’t talk about political views outside my home, and that how i learned who the Ozombies were. Even when i got the greenhouse to grow my own food, we didnt discuss it with the neighbors. i have a very nice stash for the 2 of us, a combo of wet, dry, canned, pre-packaged, and long term food, medical supplies, and drinks. i also use kitty jugs that held litter, to hold water for toilets, bathing, and whatnot. i have non-GMO seeds in my fridge for long term storage, in case i need to grow more food somewhere else! i am too close to the city in Florida, and no one prepares that i know. thankfully i dont have family here! Hubby and i enjoy when we rotate stock, lots of goodies!

    • Kamiko – You did not indicate how long you have been prepping but you are doing great! Ozombies LOL – that is a new one.

      — Gaye

    • Yeah, its amazing how much they love to talk about Obammy, and when you wont talk politics, they get very disappointed. The Ozomobots just love to regurgitate what h says, since i heard it already, i dont need to listen to it from the Ozombies too. Oh! i forgot to add that hubby is also a Marine vet, so he knows what emergency supplies we need, and we have stashed of those as well(weapons, generator, camping supplies, etc).

  2. I suppose that “Being Ordinary” depends upon where you are?

    Your advise to not have an NRA bumper sticker, in my neck of the woods, that might make you stand out as a clueless person of easy pickin’s?

    An NRA sticker is as common here as gravel.

    I’m more of a G.O.A. person myself. However; I don’t support either group because they both always seem to be working – With – the power structure, and often help it.

    Anyway, IMHO, putting a sticker on your car of two deer antlers, *is* blending in. I imagine that in the snob areas of certain cities it’s the opposite.

    I have a “SECEDE! Read” bumper sticker on my truck. It’s kind of low key. It’s probably a bit beyond the border of “Being Ordinary” and certainly is no “Grey Man” thing to do. But I cannot help it.
    I must try to enlighten the people I do not know.
    We’re all better off if more people wise up.

    In the future, when the people ask, “What did you do?”

    They won’t look at my gravestone and say, “Nothing!”.

    Not that, that changes anything.

    It’s certainly an individual choice, and a risk.

    My inspiration is The White Rose.
    I find them to be heroic.
    But they got whacked, so… what’s that gain them?
    Principle? And a bunch of other terms that only mean something to principled people. As if it means anything. I hope it does. Otherwise, what’s the point of anything?

    Today, I saw only the second InfoWars bumper sticker in I don’t know how long.

    It was very good to see it. Like I just got high-fived?

    I almost waited outside the hardware store to meet that guy.

    …But I had things to do.

    I hope I don’t kick myself later for that.

    I think we really do need to Meet Up and get together.

    Problem is, it seems that neither of us wants to.
    Nor do we have a method for it, or a way to signify it.

    Ha. Yeesh, for crying out loud, we don’t even have gang hand signals to flash at each other!?

    For me, it’s the peace sign. And, don’t give me that Illuminati stuff on that. It’s-a-peace-sign. Nothing more.

    [Ooo that’s spooky, Illuminati is in spell checker.]


    I couldn’t disagree with anything else you wrote.
    For whatever that’s worth.

  3. Unlike you Gaye, I have tried to be ‘in the background.’ Being the oldest sister in a family of 10 that wasn’t easy. So reading this list was like, “I already do that.” Sometimes though, as Gaye says, invisibility works and hiding in plain sight works. When you can’t do it though because people can sense a leader even when dressed as normal…that’s when you make your presence known but appear different. So if anyone meets up with an ole lady in a wheelchair to appears a little crazy …….. ;)or a lot crazy……

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